No pair, don’t care

A no-nonsense guide on dealing with those singlehood feels

by Jacky Lynne A. Oiga and Nickky Faustine P. De Guzman
June 22, 2014 (updated)

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Here’s the thing, we don’t think anyone chooses to be single, it’s just a matter of a) no one likes you; b) you don’t like anyone, or c) both. But no matter what your reasons or circumstances are, they don’t really matter because singlehood is a blessing—you just don’t know it yet. Soon enough, you will know. For now, while the time (and feels) away with these self-help books and insightful singledom quotes.

I can say I’m quite choosy. I found someone whom I thought was ‘the one,’ Though it did not work, he raised the bar quite high. Nobody has ever

come close.— Cristina Raposa, blogger

Decide to be in a relationship when you see yourself with that person for the rest of your life. If not, what’s the purpose of being in one? I guess I haven’t found that person yet. —Janey Sandejas account executive

He’s Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo

Based on a popular episode of Sex and the City, this in-your-face book is a wakeup call for women. Greg and Liz know you’re a smart, beautiful, and funny, so don’t waste your time chasing after the wrong kind of man. You deserve someone better, someone who’s so, so into you.

I was cheated on by my boyfriend of six years. I decided it was way better to be single but happy than be in a relationship and be miserable

and paranoid. —Chuchie Ledesma, makeup artist

The last relationship I had was a long one. After that, I needed time to pick myself up. I needed to be happy with just being me. I wanted to rebuild relationships I put aside when I was still with my ex. —Renzelle Palma, travel writer

How to Find Your One True Love by Bo Sanchez

In Bo’s short but sweet self-help book, he divulges the eight steps to attract true love, the top 10 attraction secrets of a woman, and the number one attraction secret of a man. (How come a man only needs one?)

Getting married is like trading in the adoration of many for the sarcasm of one. —Mae West

I believe that ‘settling’ for just anyone who comes along just because one has been ‘single since birth’ or because everyone else’s getting engaged or married, or just to ‘experience’ having a boyfriend is unacceptable. —Lea Oiga, Neurology resident

Single: The Art of Being Satisfied, Fulfilled, and Independent by Judy Ford

This book packs a punch and speaks this universal truth: it’s okay to be single because everyone is single. Think about it. We are born single and “if we examine our situation more closely, we see that regardless of our relationship with others, we are still just one person.”

Have Him at Hello: Confessions from 1,000 Guys About What Makes Them Fall in Love… Or Never Call Back by Rachel Greenwald

Dubbed as the “Wife Maker,” Rachel Greenwald takes us through her fascinating 10-year research project on why guys call back one woman but not another. Here are unabashed answers and raw details every woman should read.